Per & Che

As I was browsing through my mail, I found something I wrote three years ago for my friend's wedding. I was supposed to read it during the reception, but somehow, it did not happen. What was particularly interesting about their marriage was that they had just met! Che was telling me that when she was filling up forms for Per, she would sometimes ask him details such as his middle name. Anyways, I thought I'd post it. This is how I saw marriage as a 23-year-old.

I would want to claim that I am actually the reason, why Percival and Che got married but I think it was Percival who did all the "wooing".

And I wish I know more about how and why they fell in love. About their getting-to-know-you conversations, the day of their first kiss, how she finally said YES and if there were hyperactive butterflies in their stomachs the first time they held hands.

Sadly, I don't. I hate to disappoint you for not coming up with the love story that ended up in marriage.

I could however, share with you the sentiments of one single girl who would probably end up NOT marrying.

I have never believed in love at first sight... because I am a realist. But Percival has gotten me to reconsider.

I think people should be engaged for at least one year before exchanging I do's. But every time I see how happy Che is, get all confused with issues relating to time.

The twenty-somethings would always try to do what the "supposed" right thing. The standard. The norm. The route that would be safest. The logical choice. The choice with the most calculated risk involved.

But in the back of their heads they are secretly wanting or looking for a love to which they surrender.

I share this same sentiment with the rest of my age-group. As much as I hate to admit it, "what I would not give to marry the one I am crazy in love with".

I would never forget what was said in one movie. I quote.

"Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived."

Che and Per, I'm awfully happy that I was part of your wonderful, crazy, surreal love story.